I’m forty now. I am in a secure, happy, monogamous relationship. My boyfriend and I will eventually get married, I am rather certain. I don’t have a ring on my finger, but I still think it will happen sooner than later. He works from home and I have a pretty short commute to work, so we are together a lot. I feel more married now than I ever have before. He is home so much that we have had to work out a schedule where he leaves every once and awhile so I can have the house to myself. Writers need some solitude. As far as “exploration” in an open marriage or cheating, it does not occur to me. Yes, we are still in the “honeymoon” years of the first years of togetherness. We have been dating for two years and have been living together a little more than a year. We have a lot of common interests. He is good and kind. He keeps me happy in and out of bed. I do not cheat because I do not want to. I am clearly not morally superior to it. I think morality attached to sexuality does more harm than good. I really don’t have the time for a second lover and certainly not the inclination or the energy to lie about one.
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